be the purest of “being open minded”

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Every single human being has struggled from judgment and criticism in one capacity or another. In our culture we are torn through our daily experiences, almost to every minute of our day, how we see the world and how we will shape ourselves based on those experiences, conscious or not. Not two individuals are alike in anyway. Although two people may be similar on how they view the world, there is no one that sees the world and life from the same lenses as another. We become our best selves through our experiences good or bad, we are affected by everything that surrounds us. This builds us to the human we are in this moment and how we present ourselves to friends, family, strangers, coworkers. The thing that always confuses me is the idea of “being open minded.” I feel that our culture has created the idea of “being opened minded,” which is typically someone will feel that they are opened minded based on their beliefs and will accept those who believe what they believe but reject those that don’t or see it a different way. This definition seems completely off track of what the purest idea of “being open minded” should be. Everyone has been in the conversations where there has been someone who challenges all their beliefs (no matter what they may be) to just what? That person thinks their being open minded by talking to you, but in reality they make you feel like crap about how you feel. As a culture, do we just like to argue to argue? We need to change the idea of “being open minded.”

 ” E v e r y o n e    y o u   w i l l   e v e r   m  e e t   k n o w s  

s o m e t h i n g   y o u   d o n ‘ t . ” 

Being open minded shouldn’t be to challenge someone to review what they feel till they either feel so horrible about themselves, cave in to your belief, or walk away. Being open minded should be about caring about someone and understanding that they walked a very different path then you and how they feel that way about something. Whether it be religion, politics, how they do their hair, their daily routine, eating habits they have, or whatever – there should be no scale on importance, we should truly be open minded by understanding where they are coming from. Although they may believe in something completely different then you they have a reason that would make sense if they were approached in away that is genuinely caring rather then deciding if they should believe what we believe. We need to care for our people and each other no matter what we believe in or backgrounds we come from.

There will be people who are unhealthy to have in our lives, we all have had those people that we have had to reject in our life. This is not an act to say we don’t want to have a great life surrounded by healthy relationships, it is simply saying we should not be the judge of other people, but rather we can understand those around us a lot better by being the purest form of “being open minded”. Don’t question people in an aggressive way on why, but simply ask. It is a simple act for you to get a glimpse into someone else perspective and grow your mind a little more on how someone else in this world may think and why they do what they do.

  ” D o   t h i n g s   t h a t   f e e d   y o u r   s h o u l d ,   n o t  

y o u r   e g o   a n d   y o u   w i l l   b e   h a p p y . “

It is about changing our meaning of “being open minded” to truly create the purest form of it’s definition to cultivate kindness in this world. The world could be changed by this simple gesture of understanding someone and where they are coming from, even if you disagree to create the best of each of us no matter where we are coming from. Just think how beautiful our world could be if we listened and truly accepted those around us for what makes them them without the judgements or having someone choose our path because it appears to be the best. Be the purest idea of “being open minded.”

What does “being open minded” mean to you?

Truly, Lindy

ps. also look at my articles that are about empathy, misunderstanding, facing struggles and accepting support.

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links to love : pretty and adorable

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link no. 1 | food as art

The most beautiful cake ever is officially on the web! Twigg Studios is a top source of mine, so it was so exciting to have her feature a this cake! There are so many events you could create this beautiful cake and so many twist you could do off of it. The question is… is it too pretty to eat? Of course not.

link no. 2 | a new look at invites

If you are looking for new ideas and trends, I stumbled up this stunning idea that I wish I had thought of. Oh so beautiful paper blog showcased a lovely invite that was on a french handkerchief! It is the most elegant invite I have seen.

link no. 3 | so adorable 

This link is simply for all the needed oohs and was every once in awhile. The bark post showcased two adorable little creatures that you must look at if you want your heart to melt.

link no. 4 | recipe

The featured recipe link today is the most mouth watering recipe I could find…. skillet brownies from milking almonds. I haven’t tried it yet, but am so looking forward to it! (I’m going chocolate free next month so I have to hurry and try it soon!)

link no. 5 | downton

Downton Abbey Season 5 is on amazon to preorder! Do I need to say more?

link no. 6 | a great source of knowledge

Lately I have been working on my health issues (in simple terms it brings me constant pain), so I have turned to a book that I find so inspiring. The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge is on my favorite all time book list. If you know someone who is going through constant pain or are interested in how the pain works or how our bodies work or if you are human and know things can happen I highly suggest this book for you! I’m extremely excited, because Doidge is coming out with another book called The Brain’s Way of Healing!

Have a lovely Thursday!

Truly, Lindy

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get the look : natural bedroom

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Truly, Lindy

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art : madison bosworth

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After a long, very relaxing weekend (I hope you all enjoyed it fully), I had to showcase something beautiful! Madison Bosworth instagram has been one of my favorite instagrams to follow. Her work is beyond stunning and constantly an interest of mine, because I love feeling inspired to go on adventures and be a better photographer. Her photography is not only taken in a unique and stylistic way, but I am in love with the colors! Madison definitely has her stamp and oh how I love it! I only wish to be as good as her someday. I look forward to seeing what each day brings on her feed! Make sure to check her out.art : madison bosworth | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com art : madison bosworth | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com art : madison bosworth | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com art : madison bosworth | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com art : madison bosworth | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com art : madison bosworth | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com

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Truly, Lindy

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01.16.2015 playlist

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So the other day I watched Guardians of the Galaxy for the first time and it put me in the mood for oldies. I need to listen to oldies more, but here is a fun playlist to get you out of your chair dancing. Grab someone to dance with to celebrate that it is Friday!

Truly, Lindy

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trend spotting : fur

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It is that time of year where the tea kettle is constantly on your stove and layers seem to come in plenty. You need more hot showers, because even your bones are cold. Every exposed part of your body needs a soft surface that will warm up your skin quickly.

I wanted to start a new series called “trend spotting.” There are so many fun trends that happen in design and although it may change quicker then your closet at times, it is still fun to see what’s in style and what you would love to adapt to create your perfect environment. What better to start with a warming, cozy and very soft trend… fur. I am all about the faux fur, which means I can still get my constant comfort during the winters without the negatives. Winter brings the need to have surfaces covered in some kind of fur here and there. Whether it be a pillow, a throw, a rug or a piece of furniture grab the fur that is perfect for not only your space but your tactile sense! Everyone’s sense of touch is different so choose something that you personally would instantly want to curl up to. It is a simple trend that is very adaptable in any home that probably won’t go out of style (ever) and can be easily removed during the hot seasons.trend spotting : fur | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com trend spotting : fur | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com trend spotting : fur | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com trend spotting : fur | Nuance Design | LindyJacoby.com

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Truly, Lindy

ps. Last night I got to see the cutest movie, maybe my new favorite “kids” movie (although fantastic mr. fox would still tie with it)…. Paddington. Oh how cute it was! If you get a chance this weekend, take a moment to fill your inner kid spirit again with adorableness!

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