Accepting Support

. to grow in relationships .

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We all have our struggles that we deal with and support is always needed on some level, no matter the scale or package it comes in. As humans we don’t always accept the support for one reason or another, but it is so important to. It is impossible at times to deal with things on our own, no matter how much we want to. It is one of my personal internal weaknesses to accept support. I tend to hide everything in, because I don’t want to burdened others. I always want to care and support others, but I tend to not want to have to ask for care.

As some of you know (and are probably sick of me telling it) I have a few heart conditions that have drastically changed by lifestyle the last year especially. Each day I hope to be closer to normal life, but as of now there is no end in sight. I have learned this past year that support is desired and sometimes much needed. At times I haven’t been able to do things for myself or felt so tired emotionally and physically that I have learned to accept support. Yes it is still hard, because I don’t want others to have to take on issues that they don’t need, but I’m completely humbled and grateful for all the support I have been given the past year. It has been amazing to see the support that has just showered me, through many people. I have learned the negative side of support as well. I have learned that some people can’t see past themselves, that their comfort scale can be too little to take on other peoples struggles, and/or that they can’t seem to be asked to care for. In those situations I have learned that those are not people I need in my life, and although that is sad it is ok. For those who have given support, even in the slightest way, it has filled my heart with love beyond my imagination. I may not be the best at accepting support still, but I am constantly learning.

Below are a few pieces to help you accept support a little more. If we care for people deeply and accept care we are able to build a great community and support team for no matter what struggle(s) come in life. Trust me life is full of surprises that could knock you off your feet in an instant.

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Never Assume: We all make first impressions. These first impressions can leave an imprint on our mind that affect the relationship with someone, no matter how long the relationship is or how deep the relationship gets. Never assume about people. We all face struggles and we don’t know what other peoples struggles are typically within the first impression. You may be surprised by how relatable someone can be to you, or what they have gone through. Through struggle experiences we shape our perspectives of the world. Who know what someone else’s perspective truly is.

Gather Your People: Know who is important to you. Some of those people may disappoint, but with that in mind don’t be afraid to ask for support to know. Even if you aren’t going through something, tell these people you rely on their support. They will be able to bring their best care if they know. Don’t feel discouraged by the people who can’t be there, but find those who can be.

Learn Limits: No matter how strong I like to think I am, I have limits to pain. We all need a hand and learning when we need it is crucial. Don’t ask when you’ve reached your limit, because by then you’ll be so frustrated. Rather ask for care and support prior to reaching your limits. Know your limits though, so you can ask before you get there. Yes, sometimes you won’t know what your limits are and in these moments don’t be afraid to ask. There is never a wrong moment to ask.

Know Your Gut: We all get into situations that question our moral ground. These situations vary from person to person, but it’s important to always know what grounds you and to not stray from that. In these situations where a moment doesn’t feel right, take a step back, and connect with someone from your support team.

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Let’s work on accepting support together.

Truly, Lindy

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fashion design to interior design : cozy reading room

. to embrace your inner style .

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P r o d u c t    S o u r c e s :

1 : Urban Outfitters : Antler Curtain Tieback | 2 : Anthropologie : Apsley Ottoman | 3 : Anthropologie : Euclidean Pendant | 4 : Antrhopologie : Fringed Flokati Rug | 5 : Anthropologie : Hourglass Lamp Ensemble | 6 : H&M : throw | 7 : H&M : Pillow | 8 : H&M : Pillow |  9 : H&M : Pillow | 10 : Urban Outfitters : FarmHaus Douglas Fir Candle Holder | 11 : West Elm : Rustic Modular Bookcase | 12 : Anthropologie : Turned Baluster Cloche | 13 : Anthropologie : Apsley Sloped Sofa

It is officially cooling off at my place. Has the chill air settled in yet where you live? My fall closet is in full affect, making the days full of cozy sweaters, soft fabrics, huge scarfs and boots. I love this time of year for all the changing colors and the feeling of just wanting to be bundled up. In the fall I tend to read a lot more so I had to do a reading space for today’s design. I have more books then I have space for, so I personally would love to have a reading room and fall’s cozy theme would be an added bonus. Do you have a spot you love to curl up in and read?

Truly, Lindy

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easy, simple halloween decorations

. to create .

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This fall I discovered a new thrill. I don’t know if I am late to the party (probably am), but I discovered grey pumpkins! Yes grey! I was so excited when I found them, that I had to grab one. Before my discover, I wondered what my pumpkins would be decorated with this year, but how could you decorate such beauty? These pumpkins are simple, decorated themselves and great for any of your fall decorations. One tip I suggest is; buy your pumpkins a week or two out so they last longer and still look their best for the holiday(s). Halloween is coming so quickly! It’s not only a quirky holiday, but it’s also my lovely sisters birthday, so it’s always fun. What are your Halloween decoration plans?

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Enjoy your Monday!

Truly, Lindy

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a few tips to create a relaxing home

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Our home is the ultimate relaxation spot, especially around this time of year. It’s cozy, comfortable and often our perfect hideaway from everything during the beautiful chaos of the holiday seasons. Below are some simple tips to create the ultimate relaxing home, that still is stylized beautifully and fits your personal needs.

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- Flowers: Grab some flowers and put them around your home. If you don’t want to change out flowers as frequently as they may need it, you could place a bunch of plants (try small succulents) around your home.

- Your love: Find something you love to do when relaxing and create a space (even if it’s just a small space) for it. If you love reading- create a bookcase. If you love art – find a space to create. If you love watching birds – place a chair that faces out the window.

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- Your space: No matter the space size, create a space that you can find yourself gravitating to for those five minutes of comfort. Maybe it’s several places. Try to figure out the pieces you may need to help make that space even cozier such as; a small stool for coffee mugs, a comfy throw, your favorite pillow, the perfect chair.

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- Senses being touched on: Focus on each of your senses and figure out what is the most relaxing piece for those senses. What is your favorite scent? What is your favorite color? What is your favorite texture to touch? There are ways to connect to the best parts of your senses. For example; to connect to your favorite aspect of scent, maybe instead of having a candle have a plant or dried herbs that will create a beautiful scent throughout your home.

- Creating a hideaway: Remember the forts you’d make when a kid? Whether it was made out of pillows, cardboard boxes, furniture, sheets or a little of all, it was the ultimate hideaway. Why not create a perfect hideaway? It doesn’t have to be covered, but create a space that is your little space to crawl into and separates you completely from the outside world.

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What does relaxing mean to you?

Also!!!! So excited to have my first Design*Sponge post yesterday! Check it out!

Truly, Lindy

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the art of words

. to seek the unique .

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Words are the one of most powerful pieces on this earth. No matter how we say them, they can touch, move, impact in ways that are beyond. People come together, learn from each other and ourselves from the simple words, even if they are far and few in between.

Words and sharing personal information is something I need to work on. We all should. Connecting with others to create a better community, for inspiration, for cultivating kindness, to create the best environment. Below are a few ways to exploring words and creating inspiration through them.

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A few ways to be inspired and inspire by words:

Write down several of your favorite quotes that inspire you in places that can look to.

Write for 5 minutes, every few days, about things that inspire you.

Write letters to people you love.

Start a conversation with someone you have always wanted to talk to.

Connect with someone that inspires you.

Learn from someone who speaks another language.

Write down you favorite words and why they are your favorite.

Discover a new word a day and try to use it.

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How will words inspire you?

Truly, Lindy

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